TRIGGER WARNING: Parent child estrangement. I realize this is a tender subject for many on both sides of the issue. I started this blog back in late November after Oprah’s town hall. I chose to hold it until after the holidays due to the sensitive nature of this topic. The holidays have a way of wrapping […]
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The holidays are beautiful. They’re full of connection, tradition, nostalgia, generosity, and glimmers of magic we don’t always feel the rest of the year. And at the very same time, they can be overwhelming. There’s pressure to feel a certain way, behave a certain way, spend a certain way, and show up for everyone like
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Remember that song from the early 90s? What is love? Baby don’t hurt me, don’t hurt me, no more. Every time I think about “what is love” I immediately see Will Ferrell, Chris Kattan, and Jim Carrey in their shiny club suits, bobbing their heads to the beat. But really… What is love? The question
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We’ve all faced difficult relationship choices and hard goodbyes. We meet someone – a friend, coworker, business partner, romantic partner– and they just feel right. There’s a whole lot of neurological reasons why that happens that I won’t get into, except to say that we meet people energetically where we’re at. So if you’re attracted
Dealing with a hard goodbye Read More »
We’ve all known someone (or lots of someones) who goes through life like a tornado of chaos. It’s almost like they enjoy when their life is upside down and sideways. Perhaps you’ve even asked them, “Do you actually like chaos?” Their answer would undoubtably be, “No! Of course not!” And they mean it. More than
“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.”-John Lennon Oh, boy. In the coaching industry I hear these phrases all the time: “Time to move on.” “Don’t look back. Look forward!” “You’re stuck in the past!” “Your future is ahead of you!” All this stuff sounds so encouraging and enticing. Who doesn’t want
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Certainly there are those of us who are emotionally unavailable. But often in dysfunctional relationship systems, those walls are there for self-protection! What’s important as you work towards redefining love is to make sure that you’re setting boundaries with the true source of the dysfunction, and that those boundaries are healthy. Finding the root
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We typically think about trauma as primarily impacting our personal lives. But we don’t leave our troubles at the door when we go to work. So how is trauma impacting our professional lives? This week, I explore the question of trauma’s impact on the workplace, and explain why mental healthcare should be a priority to
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In 1987, when I was 11 years old, my Gram handed me a copy of Gone With the Wind, and said, “Here, read this. You’re ready.” In those pages, I learned about war, and slavery, and the indomitable spirit of women. I haven’t stopped reading that book for 35 years. In 1990, when I was
The power and courage of a good story can change the world Read More »
Throughout the month of May we’ve been talking about self-love in the Redefining Love Community. As always, I am in awe of the wisdom and insight that each of our members bring to the discussion. I often say that I grow from you as much as you grow from me. I wanted to share a
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