We’ve all known someone (or lots of someones) who goes through life like a tornado of chaos. It’s almost like they enjoy when their life is upside down and sideways. Perhaps you’ve even asked them, “Do you actually like chaos?” Their answer would undoubtably be, “No! Of course not!” And they mean it. More than […]
“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.”-John Lennon Oh, boy. In the coaching industry I hear these phrases all the time: “Time to move on.” “Don’t look back. Look forward!” “You’re stuck in the past!” “Your future is ahead of you!” All this stuff sounds so encouraging and enticing. Who doesn’t want
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Certainly there are those of us who are emotionally unavailable. But often in dysfunctional relationship systems, those walls are there for self-protection! What’s important as you work towards redefining love is to make sure that you’re setting boundaries with the true source of the dysfunction, and that those boundaries are healthy. Finding the root
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Throughout the month of May we’ve been talking about self-love in the Redefining Love Community. As always, I am in awe of the wisdom and insight that each of our members bring to the discussion. I often say that I grow from you as much as you grow from me. I wanted to share a
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TRIGGER WARNING:This post contains discussions about mental health that may be upsetting or triggering for trauma survivors. If you are at risk for serious depression, anxiety, emotional instability, or self-harm, consider reading this post in the company of a trusted, trauma-informed supporter. This is our fourth and final segment of the four-part series titled It’s
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TRIGGER WARNING:This post contains discussions about mental health that may be upsetting or triggering for trauma survivors. If you are at risk for serious depression, anxiety, emotional instability, or self-harm, consider reading this post in the company of a trusted, trauma-informed supporter. This is our third session in our four-part series It’s Not Personal. Our
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TRIGGER WARNING:This post contains discussions about mental health that may be upsetting or triggering for trauma survivors. If you are at risk for serious depression, anxiety, emotional instability, or self-harm, consider reading this post in the company of a trusted, trauma-informed supporter. Last week we began our four-part session titled It’s Not Personal. Here’s a
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TRIGGER WARNING:This post contains discussions about mental health that may be upsetting or triggering for trauma survivors. If you are at risk for serious depression, anxiety, emotional instability, or self-harm, consider reading this post in the company of a trusted, trauma-informed supporter. Perhaps the most deeply damaging part of trauma is the sense of worthlessness
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When I searched online for a definition of discernment, I found two definitions; a secular – meaning “the ability to judge well,” and a spiritual – meaning “perception of judgement with a view of obtaining spiritual guidance and understanding.” Discernment might be called “intuition” or “trusting your gut.” It relates to the idea that we
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Most of us can agree that accountability is an important part of being a person of integrity. But how do you determine who is accountable for what? A healthy relationship is one in which both individuals behave with integrity. But what does that mean, really? Integrity is when a person lives their life according to
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