The holidays are beautiful. They’re full of connection, tradition, nostalgia, generosity, and glimmers of magic we don’t always feel the rest of the year. And at the very same time, they can be overwhelming. There’s pressure to feel a certain way, behave a certain way, spend a certain way, and show up for everyone like […]
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Remember that song from the early 90s? What is love? Baby don’t hurt me, don’t hurt me, no more. Every time I think about “what is love” I immediately see Will Ferrell, Chris Kattan, and Jim Carrey in their shiny club suits, bobbing their heads to the beat. But really… What is love? The question
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I can’t remember exactly when I started it, but at some point in the past five years, I became aware just how often we rely on violent metaphors in our everyday language. We “fight the good fight,” “kick cancer’s ass,” and “conquer our fears.” When I decided to challenge myself to remove violent imagery from
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So you think you’re doing okay? You think therapy is for “crazy” people. You think you’ve got a pretty good handle on your life, so why should mental health matter to you?… Have you ever been to the dentist even when there’s nothing wrong with your teeth? Why would you do that, if everything is
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Twenty months ago, I put a hold on Redefining Love to focus on a local mental health project. It was rewarding work, and I learned so much! About myself, about my community, about entrepreneurship, about the state of the world, and about what it takes to make change on a large scale. I loved the
Redefining Love is BACK! I missed you! Read More »
Trauma tricks us into believing that everything is black and white, right or wrong, us versus them. This is our survival instinct kicking in. When our only options to conflict are fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, we become reactive. This may have worked well in prehistoric times, when our biggest conflict was eat or be
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I’ve been struggling to think of my word for 2024. I’ve been thinking about what I need to lean into this year that makes me uncomfortable and scared, in all the best ways. And as I was looking through these photos taken by my friend, the talented Katie Jones, and directed by my inspiring and
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We’ve all faced difficult relationship choices and hard goodbyes. We meet someone – a friend, coworker, business partner, romantic partner– and they just feel right. There’s a whole lot of neurological reasons why that happens that I won’t get into, except to say that we meet people energetically where we’re at. So if you’re attracted
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We’ve all known someone (or lots of someones) who goes through life like a tornado of chaos. It’s almost like they enjoy when their life is upside down and sideways. Perhaps you’ve even asked them, “Do you actually like chaos?” Their answer would undoubtably be, “No! Of course not!” And they mean it. More than
“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.”-John Lennon Oh, boy. In the coaching industry I hear these phrases all the time: “Time to move on.” “Don’t look back. Look forward!” “You’re stuck in the past!” “Your future is ahead of you!” All this stuff sounds so encouraging and enticing. Who doesn’t want
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