Most of us can agree that accountability is an important part of being a person of integrity. But how do you determine who is accountable for what? A healthy relationship is one in which both individuals behave with integrity. But what does that mean, really? Integrity is when a person lives their life according to […]
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How enabling causes harm to ourselves and others The past two weeks in the Redefining Love Community we talked about accountability for ourselves and others. Thanks to one of our members, I realized there was a key accountability point left to discuss… For many of us, a big roadblock to healthy accountability is the tendency
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The Three Pillars of Redefining Love are Boundaries, Accountability, and Grace. The premise is that we must have all three pillars in balance, both inwardly and outwardly, in order to redefine love. There is no starting point. You get to just start where you’re at, in any given circumstance. Here is a handy graphic to
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Top 19 Redefining Love memes on the topic of Making Your Own Family Y’all know I love a good meme. I absolutely love taking a quote and dressing it up for online inspiration! There are certain topics that are central to the Redefining Love paradigm that get revisited in many different forms. Every time the topic
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I’ve been talking with the Friday Zoom crew about covering this topic for a long time, but it seems to always get pushed to the back burner in lieu of other, more urgent topics. As we launch into a new year, and begin our recovery from the busy holiday season, I thought this was
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Redefining Love is all about grace, and there is perhaps no other time of year where we all need to give and receive grace than the holidays. Yes, this is in so many ways a special and magical time of year. But creating that sense of magic is a whole lot of work, costs a
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Gaslighting is a major buzzword right now. In fact, Merriam-Webster chose it as the word of 2022. But what does it mean? Merriam-Webster defines gaslighting as “the act or practice of grossly misleading someone especially for one’s own advantage.” According to the Merriam-Webster website, there was a 1740% increase in lookups of the word in
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We all know that feeling… You’ve just spilled your guts to someone, and you’re wondering if you shared too much. Brené Brown calls this a “vulnerability hangover,” and YES to this perfect description of what it feels like to leave it all on the table. You know that feeling… A vulnerability hangover occurs when we
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Have you ever thought about what is hiding at the bottom of your shame? It’s the one thing all shame has in common. It’s sneaky, and shockingly simple. It’s secrets. Think about it… How does domestic violence survive generation after generation?… Nobody talks about it. What’s the biggest threat a sexual abuser uses to control
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Trust is the root of everything and the foundation of any healthy relationship. It is no different with ourselves. In order to love ourselves, we have to be able to trust ourselves, which often requires a lot of healing. The reason why self trust is so hard is because trust is a need, deeply rooted
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